I decided today is the day I grow a pair and start making the first move. In online dating anyway.
I have always been the kind of girl to let men approach me. I think that in order for a relationship to work, a man has to feel like he is the one in pursuit. I emphasize the word feel because that’s the key word here. Not all men are made of confidence and sometimes they can be just . . . clueless. So, if you are interested in him, you have to put yourself in front of him. Make it obvious you’re interested, but dont pursue. There’s a fine line. I don’t call it a game, I call it a strategy.
Of course, there are men who like to be pursued, but I’ve never met one myself. Or, maybe I’ve never been attracted to one. I’m not sure. Either way, the men I tend to date are driven and ambitious, and I think if things come to them easily, they aren’t appreciated. They are up for a challenge, and I think they value the prize more when made to work for it.
I’m kind-of a believer in The Rules. There, I said it. But, this is for a whole other post . . .
I’ve re-written my ad (for the 20th time — again, for a whole other post), thrown some updated photos in there, and am going to have a new attitude about online dating. I’m going to put myself out there. Make an effort. The last time I did that, I failed miserably, and it was a real ego buster. This time, I say, to hell with it. I have nothing to lose.